About

Myth 3: Friendship is Magic is a one-of-a-kind play party for queers, unicorns, and other mythical creatures. It will occur on JANUARY 22ND, 2012 and be located in an extremely accessible MANHATTAN venue. Watch this space for more details on the venue's features, including a stage, a terrifying private interrogation room, a new and improved Pet and Pony Play corner, and an aftercare salon! This venue has never hosted a party of this nature before, so you can expect an experience beyond your imagination!

Myth's Anti-Discrimination Policy

Who's welcome?

Mythical Events welcomes everyone interested in hot, safe, consensual play regardless of age, size, body type, ability, race or gender identity or expression, ethnicity, sexual orientation or lack thereof, religious or spiritual path. No one will ever, ever be denied entrance to Myth based on these characteristics.

Who's not welcome?

On the flip side, we reserve the right to deny admission to, or eject from the party, anyone violent, disrespectful, rude, intimidating, bigoted, stalker-like, harassment-prone, or obviously drunk or high. Ditto regarding anyone who flouts our rules, has been the subject of a serious security complaint at this or other parties, discriminates or harasses others on the basis of the characteristics listed above, or is overall skeevy.* Our decisions in these cases are final and cannot be publicly or privately appealed.

No need to send us your picture: we already know that you're beautiful, no matter what you look like. You don't have to prove that you're "queer enough" or "trans enough" to party with us. All we want is for our partygoers to be respectful, kind, consent- and privilege-aware, awesome people who are as committed as we are to a fun, sexy, and above all, safe and consensual party.

*We are aware that "skeeviness" is a very subjective standard. We are comfortable with that. Skeeviness does not correlate with any particular identity; rather, we determine it according to Supreme Court Justice Potter Stewart's standard for determining obscenity as laid out in Jacobellis v. Ohio, 378 U.S. 184, 1964.

Price

Myth's entrance fee runs on a sliding scale based on whether you sign up to volunteer, as well as on your membership in any of our affiliated groups. If you are a member of one or more of the Fetlife groups "AB+ Fence-Sitting Neopolitan Rainbow Unicorns," "BiPolyPaganGeeks," or "The Otherfuckers," or if you are on the Switch list, you get in for cheaper! If you donate an hour out of your evening to volunteer, your entry is cheaper still! Please note that we will never turn away anybody for lack of funds. If you cannot afford the entry, please contact us and we can make alternate arrangements.

Non-Affiliates: $20

Affiliates: $15

Volunteers: $10

Dress Code

Wear a suit, a lab coat, a trench coat, a corset, overalls, a wooden barrel, or a top hat and monocle. Be a puppy, a firefighter, a mad scientist, a sex deity, a rubberdoll, an anarcho-vegan gutterpunk butch, a Slytherin, a pin-up, or all of them at once! Wear jeans if that's what makes you feel sexy, or just take off all your clothes when you get here! As long as you're feeling like your own personal brand of awesome – and you don't get arrested on your way to the party – we don't care what you wear! (Please note: we will have a coat check!)

Testimonials

"Myth is finding glitter in your labia three days later." –Thatgirl

"These events are among the youngest, kinkiest and most queer-friendly in the city: The last one boasted a human piñata (it's what you think it is), a pee-play section, unicorn activities and a Dexter scene in which participants were drenched in fake blood. While the vast majority of partygoers are young (it's 21-plus), one of the few older attendees, a man in his sixties, commented that the scene was a throwback to the anything-goes '70s. It's all about trying whatever kink you can dream up. However, the kids at this party take consent überseriously; they'll kick you out if you don't ask before you touch." -Time Out New York (Sex Issue)

Rules

What's permitted at Myth?

• Kink!
• Play!
• Dancing!
• Cuddles!
• Needles!
• Fighting!
• Fucking!
• Hot makeouts!
• Knives!
• Experimenting!

What's not permitted at Myth?

• Unsafe sex of any kind! We are enforcing this with the Banhammer. Safer sex supplies will be distributed throughout the party by our sparkly troupe of Barrier Fairies. Use them.
• Gender or body policing of any kind, or any judgment of others' consensual play. If any partygoer refuses to respect your expressed pronoun preference or otherwise displays transphobic, cissexist, body-shaming, or otherwise gross behavior, please alert a DM! Unsanitary interactions with blood or other bodily fluids.
• Any nonconsensual touching whatsoever.
• Using illegal drugs.
• Getting sloppy drunk. Our venue has a bar, and we have no problem with you engaging in reasonable amounts of lubrication, but if we notice you getting to a place where you can't give valid consent, we will kick your ass out into the street and you'll feel like a chump.

Consent Policy

Myth parties operate on the principles of Enthusiastic, or Affirmative Consent. If your play partner has stated a boundary, or if you have not discussed any activity or type of play, you are prohibited from engaging in those things. Find out from your partner before the scene if they are able to validly communicate consent to activities not formerly negotiated while mid-scene, because not everybody is! For example, if your partner tends to enter a deep sub-space while playing, their ability to communicate boundaries may be impaired, and they might agree to things that they wouldn't have outside of that headspace. Open and honest communication before any play begins is absolutely crucial!

Unicorn Buddies

The Unicorn Buddy system is one of the fundamental structures of our safety and accountability system at Myth. We implemented the this system so that at every single moment of the party, every single person partying with us knows that there is somebody looking out for them. You can either register with one Unicorn Buddy, as a pair, or with two Buddies in a group of three. Your Unicorn Buddy can be a date, a trusted friend, or somebody whose pants you reeeeally want into, but remember that you and your Unicorn buddy are responsible for each other's behavior, so it makes sense to pair up with somebody whose judgment you trust.

Make sure that you have your Unicorn Buddy pair or triad figured out and confirmed with BOTH or ALL Buddies before you register! If you list Charlie Sheen as your buddy in your registration, you must make sure that he has registered or plans to register listing you as his Buddy. If you are registering listing Twilight Sparkle and Fluttershy as your Buddies, you must make sure that Twilight Sparkle has registered or plans to register listing both you and Fluttershy as her Buddies, and that Fluttershy has registered or plans to register listing both you and Twilight Sparkle as her Buddies.

You must arrive at the party with your Unicorn buddy; you will not be let in the door alone. We recommend that you leave together as well, although this is just a safety suggestion and will not be enforced.

Once you've chosen your Unicorn buddy, you have accepted complete responsibility for that person for the duration of the night. This means not only that you will be keeping an eye on their safety, but also that you will be responsible for their behavior.

You and your Buddy must have each other's back during the entire night; you must make sure nobody is taking advantage of your Buddy, and you have the responsibility to find a DM, the head of security, or an organizer if your Buddy is in distress.

Further, if any guest at the party breaks a rule, violates somebody's boundaries or consent, gets intoxicated or uses illegal drugs, acts like an asshat, or tries to solicit sex work at Myth, then that person and their Buddy or Buddies will be ejected from the party. So you also have the responsibility to make sure that your Buddy is behaving well, or else the Banhammer of Justice will descend swiftly and irrevocably upon their head and yours.

(This doesn't mean that we won't be taking responsibility and keeping an eye on everyone there, or that we won't have appointed DMs, but rather that everybody's safety is everybody's business.)

FAQ

How are invitation decisions made?

When you submit your registration on the MythPartyNYC.com website, you will not receive an email right away. Don't panic! That's normal. We wait until about a week before the party, then close registration, create the guest list, and send out emails. We do this because a "first come first served" policy wouldn't be a fair way to choose who gets invited and who gets excluded.

When we send out emails, you will receive one of three emails. You may get an invitation, which will include the party venue address, the party rules, and the remainder of the information that you will need to optimize your Myth experience. You may receive an email informing you that while we would love to invite you, we have run out of room at the party and cannot invite you. (Please note that if you receive this email, you will be given priority admission at the next party!) You may also get an email informing you that you are the subject of a security complaint, and that we have determined that you should not attend the party. If you receive this email, please do not witch-hunt through your friends or try to retaliate against whomever may have asked us not to invite you; rather, please turn that energy inwards and try to figure out why someone that knows you feels that Myth would not be a safe space if you were in attendance, and what you can do to change that.

When determining whom to invite, we give first priority to people who offer to volunteer at the party and to those whom we had to exclude at the previous party due to space concerns. Then try to squeeze in as many people as we can according to our nondiscrimination policy below.

Remember, if we don't have room for you at this party, register next time and you and your buddy will get bumped to the front of the list!

How are security complaints handled?

If you see someone RSVPed to the Fetlife event or know about someone who has registered or is planning to register that you know is not a safe person to party with, PLEASE let us know. Whether that person has a history of ignoring or crossing boundaries, commits rape or assault, touches people without permission, fucks unsafely, engages in gender or body policing, gets overly intoxicated or uses illegal drugs at play parties, or otherwise is not a safe person to have around, we need to know! If you wish to make a complaint, please send an email to yandycorn@gmail.com with as much information as you are able to give us – the more information we have, the better we can deal with the threat. I will share the information with my trusted security team and we will make a decision together about whether we should give the subject of the complaint a warning, exclude them from the party, or take some other action.

Our first priority with the Myth parties is that our space be a safe one for all of us to play, explore, learn, interact, and hump one another. We have the power to control who enters our space, and we are committed to exercising that power to keep every single one of you safe, comfortable, and surrounded by magic and sparkles.

What if someone violates my boundaries at the party?

Keeping this party safe is the responsibility of everybody in the space. It is your responsibility to communicate your boundaries and not to ignore their violation. If someone that you are playing with at Myth does anything to you without your consent, whether it be unwanted touching outside the context of a scene, crossing of an expressed limit or violation of a rule during a scene, or exceeding the boundaries of the your negotiation, we beg you and/or your buddy to bring the offender to a DM, to the Head of Security, or to a party organizer. Similarly, if you see that your buddy is in distress, don't hesitate to approach an authority figure. We will investigate what happened and, if necessary, we will not hesitate eject the offender and zir buddy from the party. We will also find out from you if you wish us to take any other action at that time or after the party.

If you wish to bring an incident to our attention after the party is over, we will try to investigate all accounts of the situation and determine what action to take at that time, including banning the offender from all future Myth parties.

The bottom line is that we are prepared to take all preventative and reparative measures within our power to make sure that nobody feels unsafe at our events. By registering for Myth, you are agreeing that you will abide by our rules and that if you violate a rule, overstep a boundary, or otherwise act like an asshat, you will be tossed out on your ass.

If you have any other burning questions, please feel free to email them to yandycorn@gmail.com and watch this space for the answer!